Why birth trauma is such bad news for relationships?

One of the difficulties that couples face is the disparity between what the other experienced.

It is very common for one partner to feel the full force of trauma symptoms as they feared for their life or the life of their partner or baby, whilst the other partner did not feel any threat or maybe even experience much stress during the birth of their child.

This chasm of difference in experience can cause much misunderstanding, lack of compassion and ultimately a lack of support for the other and be at the root of much distress that unfolds there after.

For the parent who experienced birth trauma this obviously feels like a double blow.

Their partner is completely oblivious of how difficult it was for them.

This can give rise to feelings of anger, blame and a sense of abandonment.

Particularly if that parent feels unsupported, unprotected and unloved by their partners responsiveness during birth.

When one parent is struggling to cope because of trauma symptoms after birth and the other parent isn’t it can cause tension, especially if that person feels unbelieved, unsupported and isolated in their experience.

Trauma symptoms in themselves can make relating to others a challenge. Anxiety and dissociation can make it hard to be present, and are the perfect breeding ground for feelings of mistrust and isolation to flourish.

It’s unsurprising that intimacy and romance between couples takes a hit.

This can cause more of the same problem; lack of understanding, blaming and anger.

Birth and bringing up babies is one of life’s great tests for any relationship, regardless of whether it is traumatic.

When it is traumatic it is often too much for the relationship to survive.

This isn’t everyone’s experience, however.

Many couples report feeling stronger, closer and more connected than before.

One thing that can make a huge difference to couples is TBR 3 Step. This fast, gentle and effective therapeutic process can create space for parents to experience something new.

One client recently shared 'I actually didn’t tell my husband about seeking or benefitting from this support. But yesterday he was trying to guess why the last few weeks I had seemed so different. I then told him. He passes on his thanks to you too.'

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